Finding Peace After the Loss of a Loved One

By: Batchelor Brothers Funeral Services
Sunday, October 8, 2017

“We bereaved are not alone. We belong to the largest company in all the world—the company of those who have known suffering.” 

- Helen Keller

The pain of losing a loved one is universal to us all. It’s never easy and it’s something we’re never fully prepared for, even if the deceased was ill for many years. The impact grief has on our heart, mind, and body can’t be prevented and there is no one-size-fits-all way to mourn the passing of a loved one. But there are helpful strategies that can ease your feelings of sadness, pain, depression, guilt, and regret, so you can eventually find peace and move to a place of love.

Give permission to your feelings. There’s no right or wrong way to feel after losing someone. You could be feeling many things at once– sadness, loneliness, confusion–or you may be numb and still in a state of shock. Let yourself feel your emotions. Accept that this is part of the process and it’s okay to be sad, hurt, or even angry.

Talk to someone. it's important to have an accessible support group for those times when you feel especially sad, isolated, or helpless. These individuals can be a tremendous source of emotional and physical support during your darkest hours. Talking to a professional or trained minister can also help you feel more validated, more connected, and overall more peaceful.

Embrace your personal coping style. Everyone has his or her own way of coping with grief; you might heal better by staying busy and moving on with daily activities, while others may find solace in reflecting on their oved one’s life.  No one style is better than the other. It’s all about what feels right for each individual in this time of suffering.

Take your time. Above all, keep in mind that there’s no timeline for your grief. Don’t rush the process. As time passes, you may find that you have moved on with your life in some ways but still cry daily. It’s important to remember that grief won’t always be center stage in your life, but the memory of your loved one will always be with you.

Cherish the memories.  It takes a while to adjust to the loss of a mainstay in your life, but in time, you will be able to move forward and embrace the memories. When you’re ready, do things that brought your loved one pleasure and happiness in life, such as going to the beach or dining at their favorite restaurant. Keep a special place in your heart so that you can always remember the happy times and the love you shared.

Leave a comment
Name*:
Email:
Comment*:
Please enter the numbers and letters you see in the image. Note that the case of the letters entered matters.

Comments

Please wait

Previous Posts

Funeral or Celebration of Life: How to Decide What’s Right for Your Loved One

When a loved one passes away, it is important to honor their life with a memorable final goodbye. In the past, society has turned to funeral services based on religious or cultural traditions to ...

Funeral Attire Do’s and Don’ts: Six Indispensable Tips Everyone Needs to Know

If you’re planning to attend a funeral or memorial service, you may be wondering about the rules of etiquette—what to say to the bereaved, how to extend condolences, and where to send flowers, for ...

Avoiding Hidden Sodium: Seven Strategies to Improve Your Diet

Consuming too much sodium can cause high blood pressure, heart attacks, stroke, kidney disease, and other health issues. The U.S. Dietary Guidelines recommend consuming less than 2,300 mg of sodi...

Your Guide to Estate Planning: Seven Common Mistakes and Mishaps to Avoid

Estate planning is about getting your affairs in order for the end of your life and beyond. While it can be uncomfortable to consider end-of-life wishes, no one will live forever. Whether you are ...

Take These Practical Steps to Plan for Your Pet’s Care When You Pass Away

Have you ever considered what would happen to your pets if you died or became seriously ill? They have no one to advocate for them unless you do, so don’t leave them out of your estate planning e...

Digital Compassion: Seven Things to Know About Expressing Sympathies at a Virtual Funeral

Live streaming allows mourners to take part in memorial ceremonies at any time, from anywhere. While the COVID-19 health crisis ushered in the dire need for virtual funeral solutions, other barri...

Casket vs. Coffin: Twelve Things to Know About These Important Memorial Products

Funeral planning involves many details, including the choice of a coffin or a casket. Although coffins and caskets may look the same to the untrained eye, they are vastly different. Please read on...

The Rooms in a Funeral Home Perform Many Important Functions

Funeral homes are designed to be peaceful, comfortable places for family and friends to gather for support and reflection. A comforting environment, accessibility, ample space, and caring staff a...

Announcing a Funeral Service? Follow These Helpful Guidelines

A funeral announcement is a message or invitation that shares the news of a loved one’s passing. It can be digital or hard copy and often provides information about commemorative events that are ...

Can You Pass a Funeral Procession? Four Important Rules Regarding Safe Vehicle Operation

Do you know the rules of the road when you encounter a funeral procession or participate in one? If you are unsure, you’re not alone. Many motorists don’t know the proper protocols for this situa...